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Shortly my life will erupt in a flurry of drama. I'll be asking my husband of 21 years to kindly move out. Yippee! This has been in the works for about 10 years. I needed to find a way to earn more money so I can solely support our two kids and live comfortably. Long story short, I went back to college and got my degree. Now I'm looking for a job, then I'll be paying off our debt then, and only then can I ask him to leave.
I feel this is very fair as he never really adjusted to being either married or a father. He acts like a single guy who happens to be sharing a house with other people. He doesn't understand that a marriage is where two people share interests and have conversations about several different subjects. I could go on forever with the laundry list of complaints, but I'll get to the good part.
A couple days ago I was standing in line at the grocery store and this guy behind me had a very deep and sexy voice and instead of typing his text, he was talking into the phone. All was good until it wasn't and his phone began ringing when he was trying to finish "texting" so he was cussing and grumbling and I had to turn around and laugh. I said, "You sir, need a teenager". We both laughed and discussed our kids and technology. I found out he is a cabinet maker and asked him for his card, because I'll be redoing my kitchen soon. He replied that he didn't have any so I asked, "How does someone reach you then?". He said all his work is by referral only, so I took out my phone and said, "Give me your number". He did and like any nice person, I texted him my name so he would hopefully remember me when I needed his services. This is where I think things took a little turn.
Later that day he texted that it was nice talking to me and that I was beautiful and how he hopes someone tells me that everyday. I sat on the text and replied a few hours later a thank you and how if he's from South Boston then why does he have a southern gentleman accent. He answered some illegible English words that didn't make sense and eventually he asked if I was single or married. I was busy and didn't see it so he kept texting. Last one I read was I thought about you in the shower and how that was a compliment. Ewww! TMI aaaaaand I'm out.
Delete.
Lessons learned:
1. Too much, way too soon - He's much more comfortable telling a perfect stranger about his private sexual practices which is tacky.
2. Get to know someone and let their private information be shared in an organic fashion instead of pushing your own agenda.
3. If you can't understand the sentences coming out of their mouth or via text in the beginning, it will never get better! Duh.
I'm on my last semester of college then I'm looking at a Summer filled with testing in order to get my license. By September I should be looking for a job or two. One thing I wasn't prepared for in going back to school was the lack of time for exercise. I know everyone says that if it's important to you, you will make time for it but seriously there are only so many hours in a day. I need 7 hours of sleep a night and I will never give it up because if I do my immunity goes down and I'll get sick. Then I'm worthless on every level. Moral of the story is my fitness level went down and now I'm struggling to get it back. Luckily this semester should allow me the time I need and my trip to the gym today was awesome and I ordered a Fitbit so I can compete with my friends. Yippee!!!
Here's my new toy.
The hardest part this break was getting my diet in order. It took me a week to kick sugar and another to cut down my portions. Now I'm just working on having food on hand when I'm hungry. I have my fresh produce, Greek yogurt, chicken breast and salmon steaks. Low calories bran cereal and NF milk, more greens, and a shake rounds out most days. I do admit I love going out for Pho occasionally, but I can't imagine that would break the calorie bank.
Recently I got Netflix and I didn't know what I was missing. Amazing concept! I'm now a cord cutter, as of last February I got rid of my U verse account and got an antenna. Between Netflix, the antenna, and the internet - nothing is out of reach! First thing I did was watch Stranger Things, The OA, & Travelers. I'm not a big sci-fi fan, but I'm really enjoying it now.
Over Christmas I loved watching all those silly, romantic Hallmark channel type of movies and it was so cool. I feel like I'm finally acting like a middle-aged woman! For like 10 years all my friends have raved about them, but I didn't see the appeal, but now I do. Predictable story line means you don't need to watch every single minute. I can do chores, have a conversation and still follow them. It's like candy for the soul - I feel so good when I'm watching but then after realized I wasted 2 hours. Hey look! Another one.
This one was my favorite. The guy is just so cute! That ends another entry, so I'll say Adios for now. :) 
